I’ve written a couple of emotional blog posts lately – 4 Years Ago Today and The Morning After – and I feel a little … spent. So, when my friend Molly from Mother’s Always Right tagged me in a Q&A, I thought it would be fun, and you’ll hopefully you’ll get to know me a little better. (Molly has a great YouTube channel too, so do check her out.) Anyway, this is just a bit of fun, so onto the questions!
When was the last time you cried?
Now I wouldn’t say I cry a lot per se, but I am in touch with my emotions so the slightest thing can set me off. The week running up to Mother’s Day was hard but I also cried watching The Bachelor last night, a video of the ICU Grandpa (an old man who visits poorly babies in intensive care), and when I read what Dexter had written in my Mother’s Day card. Although, of course, with him being a teenager I can only share it with you on pain of death. Soz.
If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?
Totally. (So modest.) But I try and be the type of friend that I would want. Same as when you’re a partner – treating others how you want to be treated. I think (hope) I have a lot of qualities that make me a good friend.
Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Noooo, never! Also, sarcasm IS the highest form of wit. Fact.
What’s the first thing you notice about people?
Clichéd, but a big smile and sparkly eyes. I’m always very wary of people that don’t smile with their eyes, you know the ones. And also someone’s aura … not something you can see, but you can definitely feel if someone is good to be around I think.
Scary movie or happy endings?
Everyone loves a happy ending … AM I RIGHT?! (God, I’m so immature.) But I hate scary films, never watch them. Although I do wonder if that’s just because I’ve been single for so long and if I were to watch a scary film with someone, I’d be OK. Yeah, I wouldn’t. Sod that.
I have a pillow spray that I’m trialling out for the blog from Feather & Down that is lush – all lavendary, so that’s a favourite at the moment. I wear Liz Earle Botanical Essence (No.15 I think) perfume, and you can’t beat the smell of brownies baking. (And I just so happen to have a fab recipe on the blog, for the best brownies ever.)
What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home?
I went to Australia when I was 19 with my parents and brother. It was the last family holiday we ever took together, and we were there for a month. I had just met my husband a couple of days before I went (he had a girlfriend at the time), and I remember saying to him that he needed to choose between us whilst I was away, and the rest is history. OK, ,we’re divorced now but still. I still have family and a new best friend in Australia and would love to visit again but y’know, dollar. Or lack thereof.
Do you have any special talents?
Babe, where do I start?! But no, not really 🙂
I mean I think I’m ‘quite good’ at a few things, but I wouldn’t say I’m overly talented at playing the piano, singing or snowboarding. As in, I can’t do any of those things, but I think being ‘quite good’ at writing, being a good friend, a good mum, a generally nice person is quite cool don’t you?
What did you want to be when you grew up?
The only thing I remember is wanting to be a teacher. But even then, I didn’t want it so bad that I looked into going to Uni. But I thought it would be quite good to teach people something … to impart my wisdom on the world haha! In fact, when I graduated at 40, I did some volunteering at Dexter’s school and taught 5-year-olds how to make shit clay models (let’s just say, I’m not the crafty type), and spoke to the headmistress about whether it was worth doing a PGCE and going into teaching. Suffice to say, after talking to her, she really put me off and I didn’t bother!
How many countries have you been to?
No idea but I’d say about 20? Not nearly enough.
What was your favourite / worst subject in school?
I really enjoyed school so my favourite was English, but didn’t really have one I didn’t like. There were plenty of subjects I couldn’t do … but I’d try really hard. So I’d get U1 in Physics, which meant I was so rubbish I’d get Unclassified, but tried so hard I’d get a 1. God loves a tryer.
What is your favourite drink?
I love an Aperol Spritz because it reminds me of happy times in Italy (and it also gets me incredibly drunk), a pint of cold lager in a pub garden on a summer’s day, vodka and Diet Coke on a date and big vats of good black coffee to keep me going during the day. Oh, and a new favourite thing is rhubarb gin.
What would you have named your children?
Ben was going to be Georgia had he been a girl, but we knew Dexter was going to be a boy so he was always that.
Who are some of your favourite YouTubers?
Christ, this is going to be an eclectic list.
Casey Neistat, Sarah’s Day – a young Australian fitness/health YouTuber, but she’s so lovely, you can’t hate her (too much), Dr Pimple Popper because I’m a gross human being, Emma Tamsin is a plus size YouTuber that is hilarious. Zero f**ks given. I’ve watched Samantha Maria for years, no idea why, we have zero in common, but she’s down to earth and seems quite sweet. Elle of the Mills is bloody hilarious, it’s a channel like nothing I’ve seen on YouTube before – like mini programmes. Joe Santagato because he’s really funny. And hot. Grace Victory – I did a Mumsnet Facebook Live with her last year and she’s such a positive role model for (younger especially) women. And a few dance channels like Tim Milgrim and Royal Family in NZ.
How many boyfriends have you had?
Proper boyfriends, I’d say less than five. I got married at 20, have had two serious 10-ish year relationships, dabbled with a six-month relationship last year, although I’m not sure if we were ever officially bf/gf. So yeah, I’ve dated a lot, but you’ve got to be pretty special if you’re going to be my boyfriend!
Favourite memory from childhood?
So many. I had a great childhood, I was really lucky. Dad was the adventurous one, so we’d fly kites on the roof with him, walk across frozen ponds, explore the local nature reserve, play cricket on the beach with all the other local kids that he’d driven down to Camber Sands in the back of his lorry (with us all sat on breeze blocks, huddling together under blankets.) Baking with Mum, holidays in Majorca with my grandparents, God, everything and anything. My childhood was bloody great.
Tell us one of your bad habits…
Umm. *Whistles nonchalantly* Look, if I was really really honest with you, I doubt anyone would date me ever again, but I should probably wash my bedsheets more than I do. And that’s all I’m going to divulge.