It is very stressful at Chez Sutton today and it’s only 11am. Fellow parents of 10 and 11-year-olds will know the pain I’m going through today because we find out whether we were successful in our number one choice of secondary school for Dexter.
There is only one school I want him to go to, although we will, of course, make the best of whatever situation we find ourselves in, but I have always wanted him to go to my old grammar school, and the one that Ben attended in sixth form. It’s not a snobby thing, it’s just that in my opinion it’s the best school around here and I have wonderful memories from going to that school.
The trouble is, it seems that everyone else in the country has found out already and we haven’t. So annoying! So of course, not only did I not get much sleep last night, but I am hitting the refresh button all day to see whether the email has come in. (It hasn’t.)
Dexter has put an inordinate amount of pressure on himself to get into the school unfortunately, which is a shame because as much as I want him to go, I am quite laid-back about the whole thing. I’m not sure where that pressure comes from, although I think a certain amount comes from knowing that both myself and Ben have gone to the school and he wants to carry on the tradition.
My thinking is that if you like school, you’re smart and you want to do well (like Dexter), you should, technically, do well whatever school you’re at. In principle. However, I am reminded of the time that we had a tour around our local comprehensive school when it was Ben’s turn to decide about ‘big school’ and a former student was stood at the gate as we walked in, warning us, and every other parent, not send our children there because he had left school with no qualifications and was bullied throughout. I still remember that really clearly and although my research tells me that that school has really improved over the last 10 years (blimey was it really 10 years ago?!) I still worry about where Dexter will end up if he doesn’t get is number one choice.
Anyway, there’s not much we can do about it now and considering we got the 11+ results at 4 PM, I suspect that’s how long I will have to wait today.
I will keep you all informed of course, but could really appreciate some positive vibes being sent our way today!