I have an appointment with a solicitor next week so that I can get some divorce advice. (I don’t know what they call it when you ‘only’ co-habited – certainly felt like I was married. For a very long time.)
Anyway, I’ve been offered a free half hour consultation, which won’t be nearly long enough. However, when you’re quoted £200 per hour by a local solicitor, I figured I’d go the free route, at least at first. I just need to ask as many questions as I can within half an hour – machine gun style.
It’s been 22 years since I was married. SUCH a long time ago. We were, of course, far too young to get married (and I’m sure he’d agree,) but it’s hard to regret something when you have such a beautiful son as a result of a past relationship.
And I don’t regret it. He was my first love and I went into that marriage with every good intention. It just didn’t work out and I still think that’s a little sad.
Still, we’ve both moved on and now it’s really hard to imagine ever getting married again. Hell, at this rate, it’s hard to even imagine ever having a boyfriend again. But I wonder … is getting married later in life really worth it? Is it worth the expense? The stress? The hassle? Once you’ve had your fingers burnt, what really is there to gain from getting married again?
I may sound cynical, and it’s obviously not something I need to worry about just yet …. (or for the next 10 years,) … but I just don’t see the point.
I’ve tried very hard not to become bitter from either of my two long term relationships because personally, I don’t believe that’s any use to anyone. Not to my kids, future boyfriends, and especially not to myself. But it’s not easy. When things haven’t worked out, it’s really quite hard not to carry baggage from one relationship into another. But I think I’m doing OK. Especially as things are particularly difficult with my current ex … and I think I’m doing alright.
I’m focused on a job I love, trying hard to bring Dexter up on my own and my plan to Take Over The World is coming along nicely.
Be kinda nice to share it all with someone though.