I read a post last week about how us Brits don’t really like to give ourselves props when we do well.  It’s just not … English … is it?  We don’t want to appear arrogant, or big headed.  God forbid we stand proud and say, “I worked hard and I deserve recognition,” for fear of retribution from others.

I think the same thing often goes as far as being proud of our childrens’ achievements.  I think we all think our kids are special – they are, of course – but I know I’ve been wary before of saying too much about my kids’ achievements for fear of being accused of bragging.  But I say we should be proud – it’ll feed back into our kids’ self esteem (hopefully!) and they will want to continue to do well.  That’s the plan anyway. 

Anyway, it got me thinking.  Thankfully, for now at least, Skig is really enjoying junior school.  Well, for the most part.  He’s doing really well, especially academically, and he has been invited to join the Gifted Register for English and Maths, *proud face.*  He’s pleased about this.  At seven years old he’s not thinking about the fact that it will mean extra work, he’s just chuffed that he’s been chosen.  He definitely gets his competitive streak from me!

It was mooted (that’s a word, right?) at one point that he would be asked to join the Gifted Register for ICT too but, as yet, it hasn’t come to fruition and he is gutted.  I mean … really gutted.  He loves computers.  He’s been using my Mac ever since he was 2 or 3 years old – we’re not talking touch typing or Excel spreadsheets, but I taught him how to type his name and where the numbers were.

Over the Christmas holidays, he created Powerpoint presentations … for fun(!) … all about the next instalment of Lord of the Rings.  I know!  He created a slide show, added his own audio, inserted photos and wrote his own text.  He did things I don’t even know how to do, (that’s not hard mind you.)  In fact, in class, he showed his teacher how to do something she didn’t even know how to do.

When we asked if he could be considered to be put on the Gifted Register for ICT however, we were told that no Year 3 pupil was considered ‘gifted’ in this area.  So that begs the question, what exactly does then?

I love the fact that Skig’s school provides plenty of support for those children who are a little behind or who need extra help – and the principle of giving extra tuition to the more ‘gifted’ children is in place.  But Skig is a child who has a passion for a particular subject and who wants to do more, work harder, learn more about ICT.  It’s his favourite lesson by far and the highlight of his week.

I just hope his school sees sense and gives him a helping hand before he loses any enthusiasm because he finds the subject a little easy at this stage.

If this post makes me seem like I’m bragging, I’m not.  I’m just a very, very proud Mum.

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  1. Way to go Skig! That is fantastic! My Son went through a phase of making powerpoint presentatations too. I *ahem* had to ask him how to do something on it, one day!!!

    Personally, I love it when other parents ‘brag’ or have a ‘proud Mum/Dad moment’! I think it would be a sad state of affairs if we didn’t, to be honest. It’s not to rub other parents noses in it, it’s to celebrate our children and their achievements. Almost like an extra pat on the back for them (and us!)

    Keep up the fab work Skig! (a credit to you Kate!)
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  2. You have every right to be proud and why not brag! I have a six year old who is really gifted and although he is socially immature, his abilities in some areas, he amazes me. I also have a teenager who is very bright and I saw him get very switched off at first school as he was not pushed and although they made noises about his being gifted, nothing was done and he switched off. It has taken a lot of work to pick him back up and now he is about to do his GCSE’s and is predicted a* across the board. The first few years are really crucial in a child’s development and as a parent we should be pushing for our children to be pushed, motivated and or supported as these years lay the foundation for their future education!
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  3. Go Stig! You should be damn proud of him & him of himself! Seems daft he can’t be classed as gifted in a subject he clearly IS gifted in, but hopefully they’ll recognise it soon enough & give him some more challenging things to do, because that’s a subjec that will really help him in the future.

    Now, get ya pompoms out and start shaking them! GOOOOOOOO STIG!


  4. We should be allowed to be proud and show it, but I do know what you mean. My brother lives in USA and they have a totally different approach-almost celebrating anything thier children do. The British ‘stiff upper lip’ almost stops us from showing our children just how proud of them we are and really the kids at this age need full encouragement. all parenting books talk about ‘positive praise’………it’s totally about being proud and making them feel good about themselves!!
    Well done to him 🙂

  5. You’ve got a lot to be proud of there, Kate. What’s wrong with sharing it with the world? Don’t we read each others’ blogs because we’re interested in what’s going on in the other’s life? It’s great to be proud. And it’s great to read such glowing news. You should be proud of yourself, too.
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  6. You should be utterly proud of your gifted child. I think we need to get a bit more American about things. To want our kids to excel and be proud when they do is a beautiful thing. Mediocrity is overrated. I loved the ambition and productivity I found in LA-the whole American dream thang (that’s another story). Let’s all be less British and more positive and maybe you should write into the school or research other schools’ responses to gifted children in that area. I think being a new subject it’s a tough one for the system but they need to address it. My child’s 2 and can use my laptop. When I say use, he sat on it the other day but seriously he knows how to move the mouse, type a bit and that Mama needs to go to Youtube to play 10 Green Bottles and JayZ. *proudface.
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  7. Oh that’s brilliant, and so good your sons school has acknowledged his gifts in the other subjects. I’m sure he will get acknowledged in ict too, in the meantime sound like you are doing everything you can to support him.

    Its a difficult thing with celebrating your children’s achievements. My daughter is 4 and raeally bright and pretty sporty as well, she picks things up really easily. Her cousins are the same age and I have to be careful as I don’t want them to feel bad. If other children are the same age then it is possibly bragging. I had a round robin letter from a friend which was full of news of her daughter speaking in full sentences and another language at 18 months. My twins are the same age and definitely not speaking in sentences so it just came across as a bit obnoxious, though I know it wasn’t meant that way.

    I reserve feeling my parents how wonderful she is and people with children of a different age. I think we should celebrate it though. I always did well at school and my brother struggled, I always felt I had to down play every achievement so he didn’t feel bad.

    Sorry have written an essay. Would love to blog about this subject myself but all my friends and family read my blog so might offend someone!
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